In the classic hero’s journey, the central character is called to adventure, leaves, is met with a significant challenge, finds help, conquers their fears and returns home victorious. A better person.
Grown. Changed. Simple.
So why is it so hard for you, and me, in real life, to model, adapt and live our own hero’s journey?
For me, and the people that I work with, I think it comes down to our perception or desire that life should be easy. Easier. Simpler.
Personally, I have been struggling with, fighting with, ignoring and procrastinating about writing my first book, a book on heartfelt leadership. A big fat creative piece of work that I decided to do, right in the middle of a new business, COVID, teenagers and life.
The struggle is real
The struggle to carve out time, to indulge my headspace and to make art is truly hard and difficult. And, then there are the tears. Oh the tears. The self doubt. And, the why? Why am I doing this? And, the bargaining. Bargaining with myself….I don’t need to do this. Why am I doing this to myself?
You might feel the same about your project, your team, your mountain? That you are not doing enough, you are doing too much or you are focused on the wrong things?
But, here is the thing. What is your alternative? To not. To not come up against the edge. To not find your boundaries, your pain points, your stress.
Is the alternative a life of ease and comfort, predictability and safety?
You might be tempted by this. That life should be easy.
I think not.
I think that you might already know the truth.
Jordan Peterson, thinker, professor, intellectual, describes it best when he says:
If you are already everything, everywhere, always, there is nowhere to go and nothing to be. Everything that could be, already is, and everything that could happen already has.Jordan Peterson
‘If you are already everything, everywhere, always, there is nowhere to go and nothing to be. Everything that could be, already is, and everything that could happen already has.’
Meaning, that this is the point. The struggle. The limitation. The fighting for something better, bigger or best.
As a heartfelt human being, your job is to not only exist, but to try. To come up against your limits. To create your own story. To overcome, to make good, to make better.
And, just like the hero, in their journey, your job is the comeback, the fightback, or simply, ‘I will, because I can’. Because that is who you are. A human, a Being, writing your own story.
Or as Peterson puts it:
No limitation, no story. No story, no Being.Jordan Peterson
Meaning there isn’t much of a story if you aren’t fighting your own limitations.
And, if you have no story, then who truly are you?
What if you thought that your limitations were here to serve you. Every day. So that you can write your own story.
A story of your courage.
A story of your compassion.
A story where you beat the odds and overcame your limitations.
A story that simply lets you, be comfortable with the knowledge that you were built for this.
You are actually wired for the struggle and rewards of your own heartfelt story.